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Why you should choose your inner circle wisely

Image Credit: LiChiPan

Image Credit: LiChiPan

You are the average of 5 people you surround yourself with the most.

This I believe, rings truer than ever... so choose these people wisely.

Let us put things into perspective. 

When people hear your name, what do you think is the first thing that they think of? - Is that what you want to be known for?

The company that you keep says a lot about you, and studies have shown that there are often two variables that interlink when determining just how much your thoughts, behaviour and actions are influenced by those you spend the most time with.

First, is your consciousness and resilience as a person. Second, is the collective sum of the consciousness of those you spend the most time with. This, mooooooshed together - will give you an idea of the person you may become. 

I have never been good at maths so let's break it down even further. Let's just say that you are a conscious, optimistic and a pretty bright person. You, however, seem to consistently be around those who are pessimistic, complain a lot about their life/work/everything daily. Well - according to the study referred to above - the idea of doubting yourself will no doubt at one stage cross your mind. The "Will's" become a "Maybe"... and the "Let's do this", becomes an "I'm not sure".

The bottom line here is that you need people whether it be mentors, family, colleagues or friends, that challenge you, and make you better. But note, the goal here is not to be the smartest person in the room. No, no nope! It is to surround yourself with people who are exponentially better in a variety of ways. Those who fuel you. Those who may have bad days, but will do something about it, instead of sit there all day being in a bad mood or complaining to everyone on earth as well as go bonkers on their social media about it. 

And because people like studies, and talking about studies make me sound smart... here is another one for you. Studies have also shown that indirectly, those who you associate with the most, do define what you may consider "normal" - and this may either bring you up, or down to their level.

If you are still reading this, and tilting your head being all like

'Cmon! No way - I am no copy cat, I am 150% individual and my friends have no influence on me'... 'I am not cutting my friends off because of that!' DW. No one is telling you to get rid of anyone. It is just something you need to be mentally aware of.  

So just think about it -  If you hung around with people who are motivated, energised, purposeful and committed to making a difference in the world, that is what you will consider "normal".

Being motivated will stop being something that you strive for, and instead become who you are.